Friday, October 09, 2015

15 signs you are with a good man

copy pasted.  i found these very interesting and i m lacking so much.

When it comes to dating and relationships, I often find myself wondering how certain people end up with others. Wondering why they don’t walk away if they don’t get what they deserve and hoping that they truly appreciate their teammate if they are getting what they deserve.

I think a big part of the problem blurring this line is that many people aren’t even quite sure what a healthy relationship looks like these days or how a “good man” (or woman) should act towards their partner. To help clarify, I have put together this list of how a good man should act while in a relationship.   

1. A good man never lets you forget how much he loves you.

I cannot tell you how many conversations I have had with people who tell me that there is no affection in their relationship. The man in their life does not make them feel loved, wanted or appreciated. This is a profoundly important piece of the puzzle — a good man will always remind you how much you mean to him.

If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it. If they don’t, you’ll be wondering all the time if they do.

2. A good man always supports you. 
Regardless of whether you want to go back to school after 20 years to get your Master’s degree, start a singing career or stay at home to raise a family, a good man will always support you and what you want out of your life. He will never discourage you or make you feel as though you can’t do what you set out to do. He will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during your defeats. 

3. A good man will inspire you.

This goes one step beyond supporting you, which can be more passive. To inspire someone takes effort both in how one lives their own life and how they encourage others to live theirs. A good man’s drive and ambition will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions.

4. A good man will work to gain your trust.

A good man will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship. The very cornerstone of this is being able to trust someone, and he will realize that. Without trust, there is no foundation for love or respect.

He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone it has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.

5. A good man will always make you feel beautiful.

He will understand that making you feel beautiful does not just mean saying the words to you. It will mean truly making you feel beautiful. In the way he looks at you, touches you and treats you. He will notice details when you put effort into your appearance and remind you how attractive he still finds you, even when you don’t.
A good man will understand that whether you are in your sweatpants on the couch or in your evening gown heading to a gala, when you love someone for who they truly are, everything about them becomes beautiful.

6. A good man will make you feel safe.

I have always said that I believe one of the best compliments a woman can give her partner is telling him that she feels safe around him. Regardless of how attracted she is to you or how funny she thinks you are or how much money you have, if a woman cannot sleep soundly by your side at night, none of it matters.

7. A good man does the little things.

Do you need a prescription filled, but have to stay late at work? Did you mention an art exhibit coming to town and he made plans to take you to see it? Regardless of how small certain things seem, he will understand they are really the big things that matter most.

8. A good man never crosses the line.

It is natural to have disagreements and even arguments in a relationship, but there is no reason to make things personal, become insulting and never, ever to become abusive. A good man will remain calm and focus on the topic at hand.

9. A good man is always trying to improve himself.

Whether it be learning new things, developing a new skill set, reading a new book or watching a documentary, a good man who prides himself on continuous self improvement will always be intellectually challenging you and keeping your attention. He will be doing these things for himself, but the added benefit will be the positive impact it has on your relationship.

10. A good man understands actions speak louder than words.

Having the right man in your life will make you understand that people who make empty promises do not deserve your respect. People who keep promises deserve your respect, and he will be one of them.

11. A good man will open up to you.

It can be difficult for some people to express their emotions, fears and even inner-most desires, but having the right person in our lives often helps to open those doors. A good man, while understanding of course that some things are to be kept private, will not hide things from you or bottle up his feelings, knowing that doing so will cause tension and frustration.

12. A good man will always be honest with you.

When building a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship, a good man will understand that honesty is always the best policy.

13. A good man will make you feel comfortable being honest.

Comfort in a relationship (the good kind, not the kind that makes you stop trying) comes from the ability to be open and honest with your partner — and the ability to do this comes from knowing you will never be judged. A good man will encourage you to open up and share your feelings with him. There should never be any fear of him flying off the handle or overreacting if you share something with him.

This means being able to be the most genuine, uncensored version of yourself around him.

14. A good man will never be abusive.

Perhaps the most important point of all. Whether it be mentally, emotionally or physically, a good man will never even think about being abusive towards you or harmful in any way. If this happens to you, please have the courage and respect for yourself in order to talk to someone or walk away immediately. No good person would ever act like this, and it will not get better on its own.

15. A good man will stand by you.

When a man commits his love and his time to someone, there are no stipulations or circumstances required. There will be good times and there will be not-so-good times. There will be challenges and unexpected situations that arise. But he will stay by your side and be your teammate through it all.

Of course, there is an asterisk to this. This does not mean you can disrespect your partner, lie or cheat. It does not mean you can betray his trust and expect him to stick around because he promised to commit to you. This point is about things the two of you go through together and him having the integrity to not walk away when times get hard.

Any man can be by your side on the sunny days. The real test of character is whether or not he will hold the umbrella over you during the stormy days.

Remember, if the person you are with puts in the effort to be this person for you, please let him know how much you appreciate him. No matter how kind someone is, there is no emptier feeling than giving your heart to someone who you feel takes it for granted.

senyum tanda syukur

boleh ke cam tu.. org kata senyum tu sedekah.
kita amik yg tu lah.. senyum sebab ianya juga sejenis sedekah
tapi kalu kita selalu pi surau pun, jumpa muka2 yg sama, kita taknak senyum, apakah maknanya?
pelik gak aku kengkadang, budak2 ni.  aku ni jenis senyum jer.. sebab muka aku, mmg pahalm sangat kalu tak senyum mmg nampak cam ganas.. eh.. ganas lak, garang or kata bofren aku muka sombong.  cewahhhh.. tu pasai la aku rajin senyum.  ye dok?  kalu aku dah tak larat senyum tu maknanya mmg aku sedih bebenor or mmg aku sakit urat senyum yg dah tersimpul tak bleh lerai, so tak bleh senyum.

pelik gak bila kat surau, masing2 solat wajib and sunat nak mencari keredhaan Allah yg Maha Esa, tapi bila org senyum ko buat kejung, buat2 tak nampak.  ek elehhhh..

motif aku menulis harini ialah nak mengajak supaya kita semua rajinlah senyum.  walau apa jugak masalah yg menimpamu.. nyehhhh..

Thursday, October 08, 2015

sikap mu itulah yg menjengkelkan

korang rasa macamana?

kalu kita pi kedai melayu, kedai tu pulak kawan kita yg berniaga.  kawan tu bagi kita utang kat kedai dia.  satu hari, kawan kita tu, iaitu tuan kedai tu ingatkan kita soh bayar utang kita.. kenapa kita sakit ati, terasa ati dgn kawan tu.  kalu boleh taknak bayar terus utang tu, dan takmo datang dah kedai kawan tu.  dia ingat sampai matiii kena tegur dgn kawan tu..

tapi....  kalu cina/mamak tokey kedai yg meniaga tu maki2 kita soh bayar utang, kita bleh relax jer, cakap dgn dia, "relax la apek/mamak"...  "jangan la marah saya itu macam"  "nanti saya bayar lah.." padahal dah kena maki dan peleceh tuuu.. sebab hutang kita, kan?  bleh plak kita terima.

cemana tu?

ada jugak.. cina tu kata.. lu rasa wa punya kedai barang mahal, lu pegi cari lain kedai laa, wa tala kisah punya..

kenapa kita tak kisah dan boleh terima?

kalu kawan ko yg melayu kata gitu, tau lak ko tersentak, nape ek?  sebab kawan ker ko boleh terasa lebih2?  dia pun meniaga gak..

inilah sikap kita melayu yg sangat2 meloyakan dan menjengkelkan..


Wednesday, October 07, 2015

citer sedih sokmo..

Assalamualaikum warohmatullahiwabarakatuh.. pekabar  uols?  Selamat pagi juga adanyer.  I dlm tren ni nak pi keje.  Nak chat.. takdak gang, so meh la i tulis sikit.  I pun rindu bidang penulisan yg i ceburi secara suka2 nih.. yea la.  Lama x menceceh kan?

Smlm ada borak maya dgn sheila tokey kek yg comey tu.  Dia pun tanya.. "kak ko bizi sgt ke sampai tak hapdet blog?".. apa aku jawab yek?  Ye la kot.  Aku kata ehh.. kemarin bukan dah buat entry ke?  Manader.. kata sheila.  Lama dah.. eheheh.  Aku ingat ada bukak blog aku malam kemarin tu.. nak buat entry la konon.. tapi macam nak baca balik yg aku tulih2 lama.  Aku bitau sheila aku lama x tulis sbb takde yg sonok pun berlaku.  Semua sedih2 aka pathetic things happened.  Kalu tulis jugak.. tentu sama kisahnya.. shedeyyy.. so baik takyah tulis.. ekekke.  Nah.. sekarang aku menulis lagi.. ngek kan?  We make things as we want it, but then.. if sedih tu dtg dr hati, it will show.. nangish la hati.. sapa nak tau.  Blog je lah yg bashah.. hik.

Apa nak story ntah.  Ohh.. pasal sheila lah.  Dia buat kek mmg superb.  And kemarin aku suka ngat sbb dia bagi aku aising kek dia yg sgt sedap.  Mula2 dapat dlm tupperware tu hati dah berbunga2 kau.. syiok sbb mikirkan nak makan dgn roti ke apa ke.. makan gitu je pun buleh.  Dan2 i lapau youuu.. terus dok mikir nak makan cemana nih.  Sekali nmpak biskut kering dalam tin atas meja Posh.. so, pelagi.. tebaikan muka mintak sikit semekut dia.  Posh mmg la baik ati punya kawan.. tentu di baginya lah.  Dia pun x makan dah semekut tu sbb healthy sgt.. ekekekk.. wholemeal la katakan.  So dapat la 7, 8 kepin.. makan la teman dengan menyapukan krim aising tu.  Oh lazatnya.. masya Allahh.. subhanallah .. alhamdulillahh.  Sapa kenai aku tentu tau how i love cake or yg berkaitan dgnnya.  But sheila's icing is sooooooo tempting ngko.. aku ajak Zainun and oso Malathi joined aku.  Aku kata.. nak gemuk meh la ramai2.. takmo aku sensorang der.. ekekekk.. dorang ikut lak tuu.. eheeee.. best kan?

Tu je kot dulu.  Nak pi bfast nanti bila smpai kl sentral.  Nak pi swiss oven.  Kopi sedapp.. ok yer.. u guys jaga diri bebaik.  I love my fans.. cewahhhh.. ado ko?